I come from a long line of keepers. I tell myself that it’s not my fault. It’s how I was raised.
See, the rules of ‘stuff’ in my childhood home were: if it’s useful – you keep it, if it could be useful – you keep it, if it would be useful if you could figure out how to fix it – you keep it, if it isn’t fixable but you might be able to use it for spare parts – you keep it. Also, if it is valuable – you keep it, if it might be valuable someday – you keep it, if it was a gift (even if you don’t like or use it) – you keep it, if it is a book – you keep it. And of course, when in doubt – you better keep it.
I say this not to judge, but as a matter of fact, I decided a long time ago that all this keeping wasn’t for me. I just don’t like being surrounded by stuff. I find it a bit overwhelming. However, despite this inward resolution, every now and then I have a hard time escaping my genetic heritage.
Take music for example. I’m a piano teacher. I need music books to teach. People know this and not infrequently I receive bags/boxes/stacks of music that is no longer wanted for various reasons. For many years I just kept it all in an attempt to build up my teaching library. However, this past summer when I was organizing my piano studio and realized that I had too much music to fit in my large 4 drawer file cabinet, I decided it was time to do some sorting. My rules were, to get into the keep pile the music must either be written by a well-known composer, or it must be visually appealing. (I don’t mind making students play from a battered copy of Chopin’s Nocturnes, but no eight year old is going to want to play some no-name composer’s piece when it’s shrouded in a cover straight out of the 1940s.)
Using this sorting method I was able to get rid of a large box of music and fit the remaining books back into the file cabinet with room to spare:
I was feeling good about everything, everything except that one book that was in the give away pile. It was a book of character pieces (musical vignettes) by a composer that I’d never heard of, with no visual appeal that any child would perceive:
And even though I hated myself for thinking it, I heard a voice in my head say, “That book is kinda cool and antiquey looking. If someday you ever wanted to do a craft project using old music, that is exactly what you would need. What’s the harm in keeping just one little book?” So, after a brief internal debate, I grabbed the book and (feeling like I’d made a deal with the devil) I shoved it into the back of the bottom drawer and quickly closed it before I could change my mind again.
After that, I forgot about the book… that is until Pottery Barn entered the picture (because every good story involves Pottery Barn, right?)
Take a look at what they came up with for Christmas 2010:
Paper Music Star Vase Filler, $12 (and already sold out online).
Turns out a guiltily kept music book plus handy online instructions (thanks for sending me the link, Mom!) equals Pottery Barn-esque holiday decor, for FREE! Gotta love it (and the stars turned out great):
Now, I suppose I will hear a big ‘I told you so!’ from all of my dear family and that’s fine, I can admit it, every now and then, it’s good to be a keeper!
Good for you Elise. I glad I’m not the only keep everthing person. I’ve been out of high school since 1958. I’m still sorting though lots of .. keep or get rid of. What am I going to do with my graduation cap??
Noah and I laughed and laughed when we read this (we happened to be sitting here together). You sure understand the unspoken childhood saving rules! If you are like us, this situation will be forever referred to as the “music book principle” :)
Way to write out the unwritten rules. YOu nailed it. After everyone one, I was like, “Yup, that’s one of the rules,” right down to “If it’s a book – keep it.” How come I can’t throw out a book? I have a whole stack of books in the garage that I don’t want, and probably no one else does either, but I CAN’T THROW THEM OUT!
oh but I can…. I just need to find them…
LOL! All books are definitely not created equal, but I confess that I too have a hard time getting rid of them. It might be for the best though. I heard of a study once that found that kids do better at school who are raised in a home with a large number of books (whether they actually ever read them or not).
they look great, elise! I copied your rules and sent them to all of your favorite aunts. I hope you kept the remaining pages incase your new creations get worn or you might want to make more for gifts…:) maybe for your “star” music pupils! or a craft to do with the girls some day. I live those rules, you see…
I thought of one more rule: If it was loved by someone you love, keep it. this, perhaps the rule that makes the deepest pile!
Yeah, I actually thought of several more rules, including the ‘if it was loved by someone you love’ rule, but my list was already quite long, so I omitted a few. I haven’t used up all the sheets of music making stars yet, but I think I probably will. If not, I suppose I’ll save the remaining music for another time.
I can’t let Apur know you are a keeper and the “official’ rules, nothing would leave our house.
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